season takes on different meaning depending on your stage of life.
Most children can barely contain their excitement as they anticipate
special days. However, as we proceed through life, we often view
those same events differently.
Holidays can be a time of
joy, fun and excitement; they can also be tiring, disappointing,
stressful or lonely. Often, the stress and tension may be your
body’s way of telling you that you are overdoing it. Pay heed to
those signs and give yourself time to rest and relax or limit your
holiday activities--especially if you have to travel.
Stressors are anything
that causes stress. It might be events, activities or people! Even
positive activities can create stress. However, negative stressors
can emerge at holiday time, too. You might be worried about having
the finances to purchase gifts the way you once did; concerned that
some family members don’t get along; dread having company into your
home because you can’t entertain the way you once did; or reluctant
to travel to someone else’s home because of frail health. It’s not
unusual to feel depressed at holiday time—especially if health or
mobility issues curtail the time you spend time with family and
To ensure that your
holidays will be enjoyable, some-times you just have to let others
know your needs and wants. Don’t be shy about telling family and
friends your preferences at holiday time. If you feel that you can
no longer host a family dinner, let people know. If you can no
longer afford to purchase gifts for all your grandchildren, share
that information with their parents in advance. Perhaps there are
family keepsakes, photos or other memorabilia that you would like to
start "gifting" to loved ones instead of purchasing gifts at holiday
or birthday times.
Life brings change. The
holidays don’t have to be just like they "used to be." Develop some
new traditions with family and friends—celebrate in a way that you
have not done before.