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Silver Threads Newsletter

November 2010

Life Isn't Fair:

Get Over It!
 

by  Kris Jenkins
      Human Development Specialist
      Bates County
      jenkinsr@missouri.edu

     "Life isn’t fair, but it's still good" is just one of 50 tips that Regina Brett wrote in a Cleveland, Ohio news column. Full of great, if sometimes brusque, advice it has been widely circulated on the internet. Her thoughts are pertinent for people of all ages. Here are some of her top 50:

h Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

h Cry with someone. It’s more healing than if you cry alone.

h Make peace with yourself so you won’t ruin today.

h You can get through anything if you can stay put in today.

h Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age!

h It's never too late to have a second childhood. But, the second one is up to you and no one else.

h Don’t envy the life of others. You have no idea what path
they've walked.

h Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

h If you threw all your problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, you would grab yours back.

h Always choose life.

h Your job won’t take care of you when you are ill, your
friends will.

h All that truly matters in the end is that you love and are loved.

h No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up.

h Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it is still a gift.

My favorite bit of advice came from my mother, not Ms. Brett. She said, "When something terrible happens, you have two choices: You can choose to quit or you can get up and fight with the hand that life just dealt you."

She never believed the first was ever a choice…only defeat. She was always a fighter for herself, her family and her friends.

Life definitely isn't fair, but it can be joyful if only you make that decision.


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University of Missouri Extension Kris Jenkins jenkinsk@missouri.edu
Regional Specialist
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Last revised: 07/21/08