Millions of American
families today have three or more generations living under one roof.
This may happen because: older grandparents need assistance and
care; adult children have financial difficulties due to divorce or
job loss; grandparents or adult children need to share expenses in
tough economic times; or families desire to merge to create a
loving, safe environment for children.
According to a new, U.S.
Census Bureau report, there are more than 4 million
multi-generational families nationwide. Of those grandparents, 2.4
million are grandparents who head up the household and are
responsible for the needs of their grandchildren. The rest are
blended families.
When generations live
together there can be many benefits beyond financial or safety
needs. Children often get special attention from loving adults and
experience an increased knowledge of family history and cultural
beliefs. The grandparents receive loving care and a better quality
of life. Children learn the value of older adults and the older
adults gain a sense of purpose and energy from the younger
generation.
Consider these tips for multi-generational households:
• The key
to a peaceful home is communication. Have a "team"
meeting that includes all family members. Discuss issues before they
become problems. Ask family members, before grandparent(s) move in,
how they think life will change, what roles and responsibilities
each will have, how chores and child or elder care will
be handled.
• Make a
plan to arrange living space. You and your grandchildren need a
space of your own—a bedroom, a sitting area, or a
corner to place a favorite chair, watch television or to read and/or
study.
•
Grandparents need to live their own lives. Living
with family shouldn't mean you have to give up friends, activities
or privacy.
• Routine and
consistency is important. Mealtimes, daytime and
bedtime rituals are important.
•
Facilitate grandparent–grandchild interactions.
Make time for fun! Grandparents and children who live together can
develop shared interests that create bonds and positive memories.
Try to honor the old and create some new traditions together.
• Be realistic.
People can’t be expected to change their basic nature. You have your
ways and outlook and teens will not want to spend all their time
with the older generation. The hubbub of a busy house can be a big
adjustment. Don’t expect everything to go smoothly at first.
• Treasure the joy.
This is a special opportunity to share family history and to
record in audiotape or video the stories, photos and experiences of
all members of the family.
