Grief is a natural reaction to death. Everyone has a different way of facing grief and timetable for recovering from a loss. Some people appear to have a more difficult recovery and are unable to look forward to the future; others can rebound with strong and renewed prospects for the future after experiencing grief.
People mourning the death of a loved one usually follow a pattern in the process of recovering. Shock and denial are the first reactions to the message of death. Many cannot believe that it is true. Some people cannot comprehend the full meaning of the loss which keeps them from having to face the grim reality all at once. However, a sense of detachment does not last long and very soon the impact of the loss becomes real.
When the loss is realized, several strong emotions and a sense of disorganization arise. For example, anger, blaming, resentment, feelings of guilt, depression, and loneliness. These are all part of the grieving process. Some people may be angry with the doctor or toward the person who died or even themselves for not doing a good job and losing the loved one. Some people hallucinate. They may have the sensation of seeing or hearing the dead person. This reaction is a normal defensive tool to keep people around longer.
Some physical symptoms of distress, such as nervousness, moodiness, sleeplessness, headaches, lack of appetite, restlessness, and an accentuation of any chronic physical ailments can go along with emotional reactions. Some people may start to worry about their own mental health when they continue to think of the loss.
After experiencing these various emotions and some physical symptoms of distress, people begin to accept the truth of loss and look to the future. The recovery stage begins slowly. It takes time for them to restructure life without the deceased. People who make adjustments to the ?grief work" will become stronger and healthier in spirit.
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