Positive Discipline Techniques
True misbehavior occurs when a child chooses to behave inappropriately. Before
you take action ask yourself the following questions:
- Is the child really doing something wrong? Is there a real problem or are you just tired
and out of patience? If there is no real problem, release your stress away from the child.
If there is a problem, then go the next question.
- Think for a moment. Is your child actually capable of doing what you expect? If you are
not being realistic, re-evaluate your expectations. If your expectations are fair, go to
the next question.
- Did your child know at the time that she was doing something wrong? Help her understand
what you expect, why, and how she can do that. Offer to help her.
If the behavior was an accident, like wetting her pants while sleeping, it was not
misbehavior. If the behavior was not an accident, ask your child to tell you the reasons
she has for doing what she did. If the child is old enough ask how she might solve the
problem or correct the situation. By using a problem-solving approach, children can
develop skills in thinking through a situation and developing possible solutions.
Also see: XPLOR Guide Sheet gh 6119 -
Positive Discipline and Child Guidance
Nina Chen, ChenN@missouri.edu
Regional Specialist, Human Development
Jackson County, Missouri
University of Missouri Extension