Forgiveness

When we are hurt emotionally, our first reactions are anger and desire to get even. We want the people who hurt us to suffer, while forgiveness is viewed as a weakness.

But forgiveness is a powerful, courageous act that can ultimately be of great benefit. People who forgive have less hostility and anxiety; become more hopeful about the future and their self-esteem rises. Virtually everyone has difficulty releasing feelings of anger and resentment. When we feel substantial hurt, the act of forgiving is a lengthy process.

Forgiveness is an internal action. Letting go of a grudge is an exercise in personal power and puts you in control. After forgiving you can still make the decision not to trust or see the offender again.

Source: Enright, R. (1999, November 15). Forgiveness and your health. University of Wisconsin, professor of Educational Psychology.