Helping to Build your Child's Self-Esteem
Do you want your child to grow up thinking she is a good person, able to handle things in life? Do you want her to get along with others and to share her feelings? The way a person feels about herself is called "self-esteem." High self-esteem means feeling good about yourself.
Children with high self-esteem do better in school and in life. Self-esteem begins at home. If you want your child to develop high self-esteem, you have to feel good about your child and let him know. How can you do this? Tell the child that you think she is a great child. Tell her that she is important to you. Share lots of hugs, kisses and smiles. Give her some of your undivided attention each day -- really listen to your child.
When your child does something you don't like, you can choose to correct him in a way that won't hurt his self esteem. Don't yell at your child or tell her she is a rotten child. Instead, say, "I get mad when you...." The child will learn without feeling like a failure. Be fair and consistent; teach your child to make good choices. Remember to encourage good behavior you must set clear rules. Children will behave better when they know what's expected of them. Make sure your child knows which behaviors are OK and which ones are not. Be consistent, once you set the rules stick to them. Be firm but be fair. Try not to overreact when your child breaks a rule. Give lots of praise and attention.
Try to point out at least five things your child does right each day. You can say, "I like the nice way you are petting the puppy," or, "Look at how well you stack those blocks!" or "You are playing with your sister very nicely."
Children learn most from the adults around them. Be sure to set the good example .Say, "please," and, "thank you," to your children. When you say please and thank you, they learn to respect themselves and others.